Hey Lovers,
Its been a minute...post have not been up as much as I would love to but here i am now :)
This weeks post is somewhat personal yet generic... First, Love yourself! Enjoy xoxo
I had a thought yesterday when i read a quote and it was: “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.”
Just for some of my readers who dont know what this term is : Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved. The beloved may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affection or consciously reject it. The Merriam Webster Online Dictionary defines unrequited as "not reciprocated or returned in kind." ... Thank you google dictionary lol.
Moving on.....
It seems, so much in our lives, we can experience this sense of love unreturned to us by those we want it from.
You’re a lover; I’m a lover; we’re all lovers in some form. Deep down all we want is to love and be loved in return. That’s the true pulse of the human condition.
Regarding, romantic love specifically, I find it funny (and at times PAINFUL) the dance we all dance. It’s like Girl A likes Boy B, but Boy A likes Girl A, and Girl B likes Boy A. I know, that confused me, too. I just think it’s funny how many times we desire the one that doesn’t want us, or that isn’t the best one for us. And yet, at the same time, we have little to no interest in people who desire us. This obviously isn’t how it always is, but I find this trend is common
It’s really easy to get bummed when someone you really like in that way, doesn’t like you back in that way. You know what I’m talking about – you desire them and they think of you only as a friend or still searching their “feelings”... Yeah – the friend zone. It happens to the best of us, men and women and not only that, we are also perpetrators of putting people who like us in the friend zone. It’s a two-way street.
BUT! When we forget to Love Ourselves, when we forget The Universe is on our side and wants us to thrive. When we love ourselves, we remember that rejection is protection. When we love ourselves we are careful whom we give our hearts to. When we love ourselves, we see every event of our lives as lessons and know that there are no shortages in The Universe. We know that if it doesn’t work out with that someone you had your eye on, or that job you really wanted, something greater is on the way. This is True.
When we love ourselves and are filled with this love; it’s nearly impossible to feel unrequited love from someone else. It’s only when we have given that person power over our lives and control over our emotional well-bring that we can feel unrequited love from them. Feeling unrequited love from someone is a symptom of low self-esteem and a misalignment with your power.
So, if you’re feeling this way, take your power back today. Put your trust in the things that The Universe has in store for you. Let go a little and see what’s next. There is no shortage in The Universe. There is someone perfect for you out there and they will find you as you become more and more of your authentic self. The Key is Authenticity
When you are feeling the low vibrations of unrequited love, don’t go chasing after it from other
people. STOP, check in within yourself and be still. If you seek out the path of trying to fill yourself up from other people or substances, you will only make it worse. Take care of yourself. Do you! Stay in your power and do things that nurture your heart and soul.
This is what I mean when I say, “The only unrequited love that truly exists is towards ourselves.” When we love ourselves, we are not seeking others to fill us and we are free to detach and welcome in the perfect person in the perfect time. And in the meantime, we fill ourselves up so that we have the serenity and joy – so we can step into savoring the waiting, instead of dreading it.
Take your power back, love yourself !
Love and light.... X
Toke
